First of all, thank you for taking the time to read all of our concerns :). I’m 23 years old and recently lost my virginity. I’ve always been successful at masturbation but from a very young age it was done so w foreign stimulators… Water pressure, vibration, etc. I can orgasm both through clitoral stimulation and penetration while the clis is being stimulated. However, when with my partner whom I’ve been constantly active w for the past month I dont even begin to get stimulated…aroused yes but not even close to orgasm. Is this normal? I’m not sure if most of it is a mental block or what. I used to think that someone providing me w oral sex would be heavenly but someone spoiled it for me once and ever since I perhaps have a preconceived idea that it doesn’t work cuz somebody failed at it. I’m not sure. Anyhow, he stimulates me in every way n penetrates and I get pretty wet and all but no orgasm for me. Only when i masturbate. And I have tried binaries when he is around, well only twice n even then I can’t get myself to get off! I’m sure that is mental. Is there such thing as disensitizing urself? Where touch alone doesnt do it?